There is an elder that is a higher level due to her being in a req and leave clan prior o joining us. We are also both being TH8.5 and are on about the same pace. She may be a higher level, but I am a better war attacker than her. And of course they will go to me for advice first. If you do decide to stay in your clan, I suggest becoming a war beast to show him up.
You obviously don't have to, but can we see your base and his base so we can see what's going on?
Last edited by Ashton2001; July 18th, 2015 at 11:05 PM.
IGN: Ashton
Clan: Sith Overlords
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GG:681 mil EE:682 mil HH:3.9 mil
TH9 - BK:22 AQ:25
So am I as I said in a previous comment that I won't be leaving and if I do it'll be to join my nephews clan lolOriginally Posted by Ashton2001
I'm laughing at the people trying to promote their clans to you, OP.
I'm not sure why his opinion is valued more other than level although it could just be donations. Are you good at war? People will usually want to listen to someone that is good at attacking. You could always try talking to a member and ask why they listen to your husband more, but I'm not sure how that will work out.
If you continue to feel like you are under appreciated, leave. It isn't fair to you to feel like you are second best.
I wish you the best of luck with your decision.
I usually get either 2 or 3 stars in every war so I'd say I'm pretty good at attacking, there's not much difference between my husband and I in that area.
As for donations, I have the highest donations in my clan and the best ratio. As of right now it's 1275 donated to 405 received (it's not my best but I'm still pretty stoked with it lol).
The biggest issue I'm having right now with everything else aside is with one particular elder, ever since he got promoted he runs round and acts like he's the boss, he has the worst donations in the whole clan and is just completely ignorant to anything that's said to him. I've wanted to demote him for ages but no one else sees a problem with him because he half listens to everyone else but completely ignores me. The whole thing has got so stressful that I find myself putting my phone down and not playing just to not get annoyed by him lol.
I won't post our bases for three reasons:
1. I don't know how to put photos up with my iPhone lol;
2. I don't think my husband would like me putting his base on here and
3. I don't know how to edit out names etc so it would technically be a name and shame thing sorry
It's probably because u in a clan that's full of ignorant people who can't respect you for what ever reason. If you a CO leader and they ignore you then time they left the clan
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This.
Officially the best response I've read to my question and the only logical conclusion that I can come to at this point as well. I work my backside off for them, treat them all with respect, encourage them and am nothing but nice to them and have done so since before I was co, but all they do is ignore me. They're rude and selfish with donations and war attacks (th7 used barch in war because all other combos were 'too expensive' when he had full storages, while at the same time I only just had enough elixir to cover my attacks but I still donated dragons to everyone that asked. He didn't even get one star btw. I mean really.) I think I'm going to have to start putting my foot down and risk demotion and/or kick because it's getting ridiculous now. As I said in an earlier comment they've even stopped donating to me now
I've noticed that many players seem to respond better to "blunt" than to "nice". Don't ask me why, could be a macho thing or an age thing. Some players equate "nice" with weakness. Some players need more concise direction. As a (female) clan leader, I assess what works best with different players and adapt accordingly. My leadership style is nice, helpful, fun but firm - and all business when it comes to warring. When I first took over the role I think I veered too much toward the nice side (I am Canadian after all!) and I had to toughen up a bit. It doesn't hurt for people to not want to get on your bad side.
I'm not saying that you're not a good leader. You sound like someone I'd love to have as a co in my clan. But there is obviously some dynamic going on there. Apologies if this has already been asked, but have you discussed this with your leader? She should be able to be honest with you and help you with this.
That said, it sounds to me like your situation is really affecting your enjoyment of the game. If that's the case, I would head over to your nephew's clan and see if you can start having fun again. After all, if we're not having fun, what's the point?
Good luck and clash on!
As the leader is my sister in law (and I'm not close AT ALL with my in laws) I actually don't talk to her I just talk to my husband and he discusses things with her then gets back to me lol. It's weird I know but what can ya do haha.
Maybe you could talk to you in laws? Idk everything though...
I agree you probably should find a new clan but if your sticking there it might be a good idea to be a bit more forceful, your problem could be your being too nice, and the other co puts his foot down whenever someone goes out of line, I once kicked 6 guys all in the 1 day for being too out of line, if you need to kick someone before they get the point then so be it.
Sammy, this might be the root of your problem. You need to be on equal footing with the other cos and have a good working relationship with your leader. Don't see how you can be an effective co if you're essentially an extension of your husband. There is a total imbalance there and tells me that you are a "second-tier" co.
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