Why are some co's valued more than others?

[immortalzrizing]

my advice would be to find an all adult clan were respect is a must., putting in work time and effort to be disregarded is never acceptable good luck.

[ChopperExordium]

The issue sounds like you didn't earn the respect of the other clanmates, if a leader gives you co doesn't mean everyone needs to listen or respect you. So it's your personal relationship with clan members and whether they precieve that you can help them. CO Leader and elder is given, respect is earned

I've been in my clan for almost a year now, I worked really hard for the clan and finally earned my title as co leader yay! Or so I thought. There are two main, active co leaders in my clan, myself and another that is a slightly higher level than me. I play a little more than he does and I'm older than him, but we are both the same th lvl, both have the same advice to give and both enforce the same rules. I'm never mean or harsh and am really nice to everyone, I chat to them daily about everyday stuff as well as about the game so that they know they are valued in our clan.
My issue is that not one person in the clan listens to a single thing I say, but the second the other co says exactly what I did they all jump in line and listen to him. I'm wondering why this is? Is it because he's a higher level than me? Or (I actually doubt it's this one) is it because I'm female? It's so frustrating as I worked really hard to earn my co title but it just feels like it means nothing now.

[XxSammyxX]

The issue sounds like you didn't earn the respect of the other clanmates, if a leader gives you co doesn't mean everyone needs to listen or respect you. So it's your personal relationship with clan members and whether they precieve that you can help them. CO Leader and elder is given, respect is earned

From what everyone has said so far it seems that when yous read this you all think that the other co somehow earned his title too which is why he deserves respect. I will say now that this is NOT the case. He was given co the second he joined because his SISTER is the leader and that's why he was given it along with their mother who is lower than th7. I'm the only co in the whole clan that isn't immediate family (they're my in laws) and has had to earn it. And I will say again that it's the members that have been around for about a month that ignore me, the ones that arrived AGES after I became co.

[Mistreaver]

My only advice would be to talk to your husband the other co and his sister the leader and see if they could rather than repeating what you said, say in clan chat something to the effect that you had already given the advice that they themselves would give. I mean you do it already with talking to the other co (your husband) and him having you say something, like having the one person wait to attack who asked again later to receive the same advice again. If they reinforce your position rather than repeating the same advice it will let the person know that the leader and co leader trust you enough to say you already told them what they needed to know. They then may just listen to you and your advice more often.

[Rocket32]

From what everyone has said so far it seems that when yous read this you all think that the other co somehow earned his title too which is why he deserves respect. I will say now that this is NOT the case. He was given co the second he joined because his SISTER is the leader and that's why he was given it along with their mother who is lower than th7. I'm the only co in the whole clan that isn't immediate family (they're my in laws) and has had to earn it. And I will say again that it's the members that have been around for about a month that ignore me, the ones that arrived AGES after I became co.

If that's the case then maybe you should either talk to them about it and maybe they will understand how you feel and you guys can work things out or find a new clan. I'm not judging or anything but maybe they don't really like you? It's possible they have no idea that you have a problem with how things are going and that you don't feel valued. Try talking to them about it. If nothing comes of it then find a new clan. If there family they should understand.

[XxSammyxX]

If that's the case then maybe you should either talk to them about it and maybe they will understand how you feel and you guys can work things out or find a new clan. I'm not judging or anything but maybe they don't really like you? It's possible they have no idea that you have a problem with how things are going and that you don't feel valued. Try talking to them about it. If nothing comes of it then find a new clan. If there family they should understand.

Probably just don't like me. Not like I care anyway they're just a bunch of kids lol

[Skyzan]

Or (I actually doubt it's this one) is it because I'm female?

Dont worry, it has nothing to do with gender lol. The leader of my clan is female, and everybody listens. She has her mood swings as well, but then we deal with it and love her anyhow. Most of our clan members, we recruited from forums and other clans.

Aside from helping and donating a lot, people tend to respect and follow those with leadership style, strong convictions and one who rewards their clanmates(praising them etc.)

[Neevarp]

I've been in my clan for almost a year now, I worked really hard for the clan and finally earned my title as co leader yay! Or so I thought. There are two main, active co leaders in my clan, myself and another that is a slightly higher level than me. I play a little more than he does and I'm older than him, but we are both the same th lvl, both have the same advice to give and both enforce the same rules. I'm never mean or harsh and am really nice to everyone, I chat to them daily about everyday stuff as well as about the game so that they know they are valued in our clan.
My issue is that not one person in the clan listens to a single thing I say, but the second the other co says exactly what I did they all jump in line and listen to him. I'm wondering why this is? Is it because he's a higher level than me? Or (I actually doubt it's this one) is it because I'm female? It's so frustrating as I worked really hard to earn my co title but it just feels like it means nothing now.

I would leave any clan that didn't promote me to co after a couple months of solid play. Thats more disrespectful than members not listening to your advice.

[Sukiawesome]

In one of my clans, people started respecting me for who I after I lost my temper. Not saying this is a good way, but you could show that bad things happen if someone crosses the line too much...

[Tmoss1125]

If you only just became co it will take time for the members to think of you as a co, and then after that if you're demoted people might still think you're a co, it happened to me