Why are some co's valued more than others?

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Originally Posted by Mystery93

Hi Sam! So sorry, just looking back and realized you had replied my post here.

Hmm. I'm absolutely understand your situation. No one would ever be happy to be ignored like that, more over when we have put much effort to show that we truly care. For this case, if i was in your shoes, i would just ignore that specific member too. Act careless only toward him (as one of the leader you should still watch out over him for sure).

I'll just keep being true to myself and won't let any single thing about this game affected my RL's personal feelings. I only can advice you that, you don't need recognition for your value in the clan. You only need to do your best to help out your clannies. And if he has went overboard, feel free to take out your heels and do your job. Just stay cool, laaaadeeehhhh leader! ^^

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Haha best advice I've received so far and gave me a laugh! Thanks! :)

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Originally Posted by XxSammyxX

Dang nothing I can do about that as he constantly stays a few levels above me
Nothing I can do about that one either lol
Another one I can't do anything about as I used my one name change :(
And I'm pretty sure my grammar isn't too bad.
Looks like I'm just going to be stuck in an undervalued rut :( thanks for your input though it shed some light on the situation :)

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if you want to get a higher level donate more and also try to send out more mail so people get to know your name

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Originally Posted by Tvsever

Nobody cares about level.

Either A) you are newer to the clan and passed up a lot of older members who feel slighted
B) While you saying the same thing as the Co's how you go about saying it is different. You have to earn every ones respect. I have a great Co, really good player who I had to coach a lot as the way they came across when trying to give people advice was very critical and negative (even though it wasn't their intent). Small adjustments to your mannerism and how you say things can make a huge difference. ..and if that doesn't work kick a few people so know you mean business, never let any players argue with you in the clan chat. That's instant kick. Make sure you clan has some means of private communication for players to air their issues one on one.

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In my original post it says I've been in the clan for almost a year, which, just to clarify this, is about how long the clans been around too. I'm one of the oldest members. And as I've said in a previous comment I'm nicer than the other co as he can be a bit blunt and/or harsh at times. Thanks anyway though :)

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Originally Posted by TipTopTep

if you want to get a higher level donate more and also try to send out more mail so people get to know your name

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I donate every chance I get but he still stays 10 or 11 levels higher than me, just when I think I'm catching up, BAM he's miles ahead of me again I don't know how he does it lol

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Originally Posted by Diablo1979

I don't think its sexism per se, it could have to do a lot with timing and how your advice is construed. Is your advice asked for or are u micromanaging every replay? Many high levels fall into a trap where their is only one correct way, their way. In this game, that's not always the case. I have a th 8 who can govape like nobody's business, but because she has been told dragloon or hogs r the only way to go, her confidence has been rattled. All I can suggest is pick your battles, boost their ego and build their confidence and above all be forgiving...they will come to respect u for it and work hard to do right by u:-)

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Go Vape. lol

But on a serious note, the seniority and familiarity always seem to be a factor in determining reception to a co's advice. There's nothing you can do about the fact that he's been there longer and is more familiar with the clan, which gets him/her more respect in the clan. Another factor is the player's level. If he/she is 10 levels above you, they are obviously more likely to listen to him/her. Another thing that factors in is CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, not just criticism. My old clan was called TWSS. I left them because they expected 3 stars on every attack, but never helped you prepare for the attack, and offered up insults and criticism after the failed attack. This often alienates many clan members from the co (or in this case, me from the whole clan in general). Instead of doing this, tell them what they could've done better and can improve on next time.

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Originally Posted by XxSammyxX

Haha best advice I've received so far and gave me a laugh! Thanks! :)

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You're welcome, lady leader.. ^^

I'd get a new clan asap.

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Originally Posted by XxSammyxX

I've been in my clan for almost a year now, I worked really hard for the clan and finally earned my title as co leader yay! Or so I thought. There are two main, active co leaders in my clan, myself and another that is a slightly higher level than me. I play a little more than he does and I'm older than him, but we are both the same th lvl, both have the same advice to give and both enforce the same rules. I'm never mean or harsh and am really nice to everyone, I chat to them daily about everyday stuff as well as about the game so that they know they are valued in our clan.
My issue is that not one person in the clan listens to a single thing I say, but the second the other co says exactly what I did they all jump in line and listen to him. I'm wondering why this is? Is it because he's a higher level than me? Or (I actually doubt it's this one) is it because I'm female? It's so frustrating as I worked really hard to earn my co title but it just feels like it means nothing now.

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Was that co leader a co leader before you? People that have been there and know that might tend to trust or listen to him more since he's been a good co leader for a while and they know he knows what he's doing and stuff. They also are probaly more used to him. I'm sure it's not cause your female. Give it some time and see if things change. It's possible a few of the people do care that he's higher lvl and think he's more experienced or something and those people might think lvl makes him better then you. If your in a good clan then most people shouldn't think that. Most likely things will change.

I was the leader in a clan for a long time. I felt unappreciated at times aswell. I would do everything a good leader does, lead by example. Donations, chat, good attacks. I noticed my clan was being innactive so I made up games for the clan, rewards, incentives. Nothing worked. Then my friend joins after taking a break and everyone starts listening to him and doing whatever he says (which by the way is exactly what I would say). So, I know how you feel. I never understood it, and I can't really give much advice aside from this: Keep doing what you are doing, hopefully they will come around. Some people just are like that. They don't appreciate what you do. Maybe your husband can take a "little break" not be as vocal. Let you shine in the spotlight for a little. Maybe that will allow them to listen to you. Or you can be the one to take a break. Let them see how much they need you or miss you helping them. Then they will begin to appreciate you. I did the latter method and it appeared to work. All up to you. Good luck!