Originally Posted by
WarrenJames
This should be obvious to regular forum goers, but I think I may need to say it again.
Tone of voice usually is missing from text, and that can easily lead to assuming implied tone or meaning in someone's message. Even with tone of voice, the same spoken stuff can be skewed towards certain biases, which has been proven repeatedly, with one example I can recall being the varied replies from people seeing a recent State of the Union speech.
Ideas can and will get 'hurt' or 'killed'. People can hold onto thier ideas as if it was a part of them, and feel every attack on it, and can take it as something personal. It is a common reaction, since it is based on a person's ego. They come up with some work on an idea, which can show how smart and able they are, and if it gets shot down, it hurts thier pride. I know some of you are likely chuckling to yourselves, saying something along the likes of how stupid those kind of people are, but you too can fall into that way of thinking too, and not fully realize it!
Why am I saying this? Because I saw some examples of this already in this thread with people arguing over things that aren't totally related to the topic at hand. I know GanjaSandwich, and a few others, and the wording they use can rub against someone. Same could be said for me. They aren't trolls, or intending to harrass anyone. Point out the issue calmly, and usually we address it rather quickly.
Also, those two common issues of taking things the wrong way from lack of tone of voice, and pride in one's ideas are also issues that needs to be kept in mind when breaking the news to people about ruled out ideas. (That's right, this rant applies to the thread topic too :p)
Anyway, could go on with a tangent topic... Just please keep the miscommunication and pride in check when working on ideas, OK?