What effects your decision to help others?

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Originally Posted by inspirit999

I shall respond to this cleverly worded comment here. First of all there is not one name i used, so if fact no one personally was singled out. So your tantamount bullying charge does not hold water. Just because you choose not to help others again does not make one a bully, it makes them a separatist. And treating your own as a special group, a close nit group excluding outsiders makes one elitist, so again not a bully. You need to brush up on your terms and not dispense with the latest media influenced age of toleration buzzword.

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I quite agreed with the part about helping a select group ie nh. I said it wasn't being cold.

Bullying a group of people is as easily done as bullying one person. I also detest buzzwords but just like cliches they are often used because that is what the situation is.

By providing labels for others who do not play the same way as your group does is bullying if the label is negative or derogatory. To suggest by such a label to some one uses the RSS and DD as is IMO obviously intended and in such a manner as to suggest that such playing habits are not socially acceptable puts such people in the position of play as WE do or be thought badly of. Ie do it our way or consider yourself wrong.

Someone's' choosing to help only their friends and neighbours is up to them and none of my business. However to do so and SAY that someone doing else wise is doing it wrong points back to negative labels for me.

Anyone finding a RSS that is stocked with what they are in need of and buying is not breaking a rule. If they are aware enough to find a way that is provided to everyone else as well to get back to a shop they got what they needed from is playing smart IMO.

what they aren't doing is reading someone else's mind as to who they are intending to sell to.

Just as an fyi as as to my strongly held opinion of this I have personal experience with the extreme effects of bullying. I'm talking about giving up a fantastic and interesting job because I was constantly reminded by word and action that despite doing the job well enough to be recognized corporately I wasn't the same body type and age group of those who achieved less but were in the majority in number in our branch.

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Originally Posted by inspirit999

Also i would like to add people have their own rules and they have every right to shut others out of their world.

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I agree. Play your own way.

Just don't call others down for doing the same.

I usually go by what is in my inventory. If its something i have plenty of, i definitely help out. In regards to the paper, if its a lower level player, i tend to fill their crate. Especially if the crate calls for fish and i see they haven't built their boat yet. Also, if someone is selling some premium items and their crate also calls for premium, i feel obliged to reciprocate. As for my neighbors, i have been helping less and less. I used to alway fill crates, but when I rarely put a flag up my boat usually does not get helped. Maybe i need new neighbors? Because i get a lot more help from strangers by putting an ad up, and that is why I also tend to help those i find through the paper.

I help those in my neighborhood as much as possible and will fill crates for anyone on my friends list.

The only exception is that I won't fill crates in which someone hasn't filled at least one crate themselves. If they don't prepare at all for their boat order, I don't help them.

For me it's only based on what I have in stock. I'm always checking my on my friends first, then my followers, then I search the paper for those who need help. I use Tom to stock up on items that take forever to make so most of the time giving up a few isn't a problem for me. I'm usually unable to help with sugar or dairy because I never have enough for myself! When I flag a crate I fill my RSS but I don't advertise in the paper right away, giving my friends & followers a chance to buy & help first. When I do advertise I list the most common item so the ad stays around longer. I usually break up the rare items- if I have 4 duct tapes I might only sell one, wait until it gets snatched up, then put another up for sale etc. Right now I'm concentrating on getting the boat score hunter III achievement so I will search the paper just for !s. I go to the boat first, then check what's for sale. It's a bummer when people buy everything & don't help your boat but the worst is when they buy you out & can't even revive a tree or bush!!
It's been really interesting to hear everyone's thoughts on this!

I didn't know people expected this. lol if I see something I like in a shop I'll buy it. then I will check boat and if I have yes I will fill. regardless of if items I brought were same value. ie if I brought burgers and boat wants ice cream. I would fill it.

I help whoever I can. However if I only have say 4 of an item and two different people are asking for help with the same 4 items, I will help the lower level person. And I only help people under level 40 with dairy and sugars. Anyone higher than that and asking for help is just being lazy/not producing effectively.

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Originally Posted by Hangleav

I help whoever I can. However if I only have say 4 of an item and two different people are asking for help with the same 4 items, I will help the lower level person. And I only help people under level 40 with dairy and sugars. Anyone higher than that and asking for help is just being lazy/not producing effectively.

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I respectfully disagree with the characterization in your last comment -- I am NOT lazy, and I produce dairy items VERY EFFECTIVELY all day -- they just go POOF!!! ha ha ha

If I ask for help on a dairy crate (I usually cast those off) it's because I need to do that boat to keep the barn from exploding, and I am out of dairy ATM. Otherwise I'll leave it sit -- but then I get lots of kik messages saying "Hey Perky your boat is sitting there for hours -- do you need help?" I HAVE GREAT NEIGHBORS IN AND OUT OF MY NH!!!! :) :) :) :) :)

On other's boats: I help anyone I can with whatever I have whenever I am out and around. I don't need thr BSH points anymore, but I WANT THAT D*MNED SNAIL WITH THE HAT!!!! ha ha

For my boats: I try and ask for help on 1 of each crate, but sometimes I ask for help on 2 of same crates because (1) I don't have the item and need the help OR (2) I don't want to beg neighbors for help on a crate of something hard to fill (like 3 goat cheese,4 cow cheese or 3 jams). In that case I'll mark 2 single casserole crates and do the jams myself --

I LOVE crop boats -- I ALWAYS mark those crates for neighbors to fill. 65 wheats sounds like a lot, but everyone can grow those in a hurry, so I flag them ALL. Ditto carrots sugarcane and indigo -- those are easily found in the DD so I flag them. Tomatoes/potatoes/lettuce -- maybe 2 crates. Then I fill the rest of the boat crates with stuff out of the barn.

Hi. I've been watching this thread for a while, as i like the positive and curious question of what influences people to help with crates, to give people ideas of how to attract people to fill crates if they are struggling (rather than the several accusationary and outraged threads of late saying what people should and shouldn't be doing). I find some of the answers really interesting, but I am still nervous at how strongly some answers suggest there is one 'right' way - so please be kind, I hope what I have to say is just a different perspective...

I've never had any expectations of people who buy form my shop, do/don't fill my crates, or people who offer me crates to fill. If my boat goes without being filled then for me it was a mini game i didn't win and nothing lost just a new challenge on the next (although i honestly can't remember the last time that happened for me). Whether i fill a crate changes as my levels do. I'm currently level 67 and desperate for experience points to level up. I'm really grateful when people put up crates for help as the xp points help me a lot - and I love crates asking for crops as even if i don't have those in stock i can usually buy some in my version of the paper and go back and fill the crate of someone i saw earlier in the paper. I always saw this as win win - some people get coins in the shop (and thats what shops in real life generate i think, and I've been desperate for coins at times) some people get boats filled so boat and xp points (great for those aiming for their 50 diamonds) and I get some XP points and feel good for helping. When I know my friends and neighbours are trying really hard to level up i purposely put crates up for help i think they can fill to help them out - and no bad feelings what so ever if someone else gets there first as it's all good for everyone.

i help people if i feel I have enough stock to re-stock an item if it comes up on my next boat. In all honesty i can't help everyone every time as when you see 8 boats within minutes asking for feta pies (this is an example from the weekend), my machines aren't that fast and I can only help the first couple. And please don't think me mean but i try to keep a stock of approx 10, I don't see it as 'hoarding', although i sometimes go down to zero. But when boats a boat asks for between 12-60 of one item, with multiple items needing the same ingredients and machines i still find boats a challenge and laugh with my neighbours about the mad dash. Boats get increasingly challenging with higher levels in my personal experience, and that too is part of the game for me.😊

Ever since I saw this thread a few weeks ago, I have been paying attention when I play.

The most clear pattern that jumps at me is regarding boats. When there are only a few hours left (like two or less) and not all boxes filled, I do not help. I do not need the XPs for now since I am focusing on mastering the coffee kiosk. I feel that the farmer only opened boxes for those players who need money and coins. Besides, the farmer may not come back in time to send me the thank you letter before the boat leaves (this are usually not found through the DD so I am not sure if they are actively playing at the moment).

Other than that I always help, as above said, if I can restock.